Interview with Nikki Yen Yamada (Part 3)

Grace: So escort work is very much a “professional job”?

Nikki: Yes, I need to “perform”, within the time I am being paid for. I need to present myself as a sexual being, engaging in sexual ways. Guys can open up a bit, say things, experiment with some fantasies or act out some sexual desires. It is professional in the sense I am being paid for a service.

For instance, there are guys who fantasize about being urinated on, and have asked me to do it.
It was a very foreign concept to me before I started out this work. I have had relationships with men before. I mean I had boyfriends, none of them ever mentioned those kind of things.

But I do not know if any one of my ex-boyfriends may well have had this fantasy. They may have been afraid of rejection or ridicule and because of this, never told me that they would like to try iyt out.

I do not understand why unrinating on someone else is erotic, or sensual.

Interview with Nikki Yen Yamada (part 2)

Grace: How do you compare the relationship you had with him and today’s actual escort work?

Nikki: It was an unspoken “contract”, quite subtle, we knew it was not real love, but we both got what we needed.

I remember him as good looking man in his late 50’s, very intelligent and successful, married with 3 children. I was only 19 with very limited sexual experience, but he loved that. Sometimes, I lay in bed very still and he showed a lot of affection towards me. He wanted “youth”. Even though he was older, he was not demanding of me.

He also cared about me, supported me with my uni fees. I guess human emotions are complicated, I felt the relationship was wrong, but I liked him.

Now, with escort work, the terms are a lot clearer. It is more of a business matter, a service to be purchased.

Interview with Nikki Yen Yamada (Part 1)

Interview with Nikki Yen Yamada (Part 1)

Grace: Thank you for speaking to me about your experiences. Firstly I would like to know about your decision to work in Adult Entertainment industry. I mean how did you start?

Nikki: When I was about 19, I was studying at uni, although I was given some money for allowances, I was one of those people who didn’t know how to budget. Towards end of the month, I was always short of money, and felt anxious.

I don’t know if it was the female instinct or desperation, I was driven into it by a combination of all those, I vaguely knew men would do things for me in exchange of sexual favours, sometime it maybe as simple as flirting.

I met a Japanese business man, who spoilt me with expensive gifts and gave me money to spend in return I was his young “lover” while he was on vacation in Sydney.

I guess my “innocence” was corrupted, and it was the wrong path to take. I always felt that was my first unofficial “escort”. I wish I didn’t know about these kinds of transactions, because I have discovered this “trade”. Whenever I need money, I would go back to it and I beleive I will die with a very blemished soul! (Smile …….)

To be continued………